Each One Their Responsibilities

I’m repeatedly coming back to the topic of responsibility lately. E.g., in Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, or in conversations with my wif. Taking responsibility to what happens in one’s life and where it leads to. The difference between responsibility and guilt or being the cause of something. That it is necessary to take on responsibility in everything related to one’s life. But not feeling responsible for other people’s responsibilities, emotions and actions.

Walking side by side, each parther with their responsibilities

In relationships, Manson writes about the importance that both partners take responsibility for their stuff and that neither one gets into a victim or helper position in a bid for attention. Everyone has their topics to work on and is responsible for them, so that both can more forward together, side by side as my wife said. That doesn’t mean that there can’t be help and support between the two, but that it takes place while both know who’s responsibility one or the other problem/issue/topic is. Not one partner taking over the responsibility for the other, but instead helping without an urge to feel better for doing so, freely.

I realized that in many ways I haven’t often taken responsibility for a lot of things in my life. At least not compared to other, compared to what might have been possible. I’m only just getting started with such things. And it’s a path to growing further. For now, I am starting to take more responsibility for my writing. Writing more, publishing more and putting it out there.